Tuesday, May 22, 2007

LAWYER MEDIATORS HAVE NEW ETHICAL OBLIGATIONS

Revised Rules of Professional Conduct (RPC) that take effect in Missouri on July 1, 2007 add several new standards for lawyers who act as mediators. Rule 4-1.12 adds mediators to the list of persons who cannot represent anyone in connection with a matter in which the mediator participated "personally and substantially." An exception exists if all parties to the matter give informed consent in writing. Further a lawyer acting "personally and substantially" as mediator cannot negotiate for employment with any person involved as a party or lawyer in a matter. A lawyer serves as a third party neutral or "mediator" when the lawyer assists two or more persons who are not clients of the lawyer to reach a resolution of a dispute or other matter that has arisen between them (Rule 4-2.4.a). Rule 4-2.4.b also requires a lawyer mediator to inform unrepresented parties that the lawyer is not representing them, and when the lawyer/mediator should reasonably know that a party does not understand, to explain the difference between the role of as lawyer representing a client and the role as third party neutral. The comment states that the extent of disclosure depends on the particular parties and subject matter of the proceeding. More information is required particularly with unrepresented parties using mediation for the first time, including a warning that the attorney-client evidentiary privilege is inapplicable to mediation communication between the parties and the lawyer/mediator.

AS A LAWYER/MEDIATOR, HOW DO YOU MAKE IT CLEAR TO MEDIATION PARTICIPANTS THAT NO ATTORNEY CLIENT RELATIONSHP IS CREATED? AS A NON-LAWYER MEDIATOR HOW TDO YOU DISTINGUISH THE LIMITS OF PROVDING THE PARTIES WITH LEGAL INFORMATION AND GIVING LEGAL ADVICE?

How truthful must a lawyer be in mediation?

Revised Rules of Professional Conduct (RPC) go into effect in Missouri on July 1, 2007. Several of these rules address the candor that a lawyer must use in representing a client in mediation. The comment to Rule 4-2.4 mentions that lawyers representing clients in alternative dispute resolution process are governed by RPC., and that lawyers have an obligation of candor to both the neutral and other parties. The level of truthfulness before a "tribunal" (court or binding arbitration governed by Rule 4-3.3), however, is higher than the candor required in mediation (governed by Rule 4-4.1) For mediation (Rule 4-4.1) a lawyer is required to be truthful, "shall not knowingly make a false statement of material fact or law," but generally has "no affirmative duty to inform" other parties of relevant facts. Estimates of price or value or a party's intentions regarding settlement may or may not be fact statements, depending on the circumstances. A certain amount of "puff talk" is allowed. The lawyer must only disclose a material fact if avoiding to do so would assist a criminal or fraudulent act by the client. Before a tribunal a lawyer shall not knowingly make a false statement of any fact or law or fail to disclsoe legal authority directly adverse to the client when another party does not disclose it. Before a tribunal a lawyer may not offer evidence the lawyer knows to be false (the tolerance for puff talk is less).

HOW HAVE YOU HANDLED A SITUATION IN MEDIATION WHERE YOU THOUGHT A PARTY OR THE PARTY'S LAWYER WAS NOT TRUTHFUL?

Thursday, May 17, 2007

Does Missouri need a Mediation Act?

Mediation is increasing in popularity in Missouri, yet our state has no comprehensive mediation act. Some think our state needs a statute to establish the basic standards for the mediation process. The legislature has embracing mediation in a variety of statutes as a dispute resolution process for commercial and consumer disputes, administrative and agency disputes, and judicial disputes. Would a Mediation Act provide guidance for the practice of mediation? Would an Act establish helpful standards and inform the public about issues such as the non-binding and confidential nature of the process? Would this increase the confidence of the consumers of mediation? Or are we better off with the flexibility and informality of mediation that is not specifically defined? Tell us what you think.

Wednesday, April 11, 2007

IMUS: MISSION IMPOSSIBLE?

THIS IS YOUR MISSION, SHOULD YOU CHOOSE TO ACCEPT: Your cell phone rings. It's an intern with the Don Imus Radio Show. Are you willling to mediate a conversation between Don and the student athletes of the Rutgers basketball team?

Monday, March 19, 2007

Report to Supreme Court on Family Mediation

The following is the text of a report of our study group on recommendations made by the Missouri Supreme Court ADR Commission for revisions to court rules for mediation of domestic relations disputes. The report was submitted to the Judge Teitelman on March 5, 2007.

The Association of Missouri Mediators, a statewide non-profit organization mediators and advocates promoting professional mediation practice in our state, thanks the Supreme Court for its interest in exploring the use of mediation as an effective dispute resolution process in domestic relations disputes. The work and recommendations of the ADR Commission appointed by the Court has been of particular interest because family mediators render services most often in conjunction with court proceedings. We are aware that much time and thought was poured into the Commission’s work. Judge Teitleman has graciously spoken to our organization on several occasions and invited us to comment on the pending recommendations.
A study group was formed and during the month of February 2007, we invited members to comment in eight areas of particular interest to family mediators that may significantly impact the practice of family mediators in the state of Missouri. Responses were gathered from detailed survey questions, several mini surveys and a teleconference of members hosted by the study group. (See appendix A for the survey questions).

Comments, suggestions, and concerns of our membership in three areas are outlined below. We applaud the attention of the Supreme Court to best practices for court-connected mediation. The interest of the Supreme Court in the views of a wider cross-section of the community of mediation practitioners is much appreciated. Our Association is willing to render any technical assistance the Court may find helpful.
Section 1: Education and Training Requirements for Family Mediators

A. Basic Educational Level:

Supreme Court Rule 88.05 presently requires family mediators to have a juris doctorate or a graduate degree in a field that includes the study of psychiatry, psychology, social work, counseling or other behavioral science substantially related to marriage and family interpersonal relationships. The proposed Rule 17.11 changes the level of formal education to a bachelors degree from an accredited institution.

Eighty percent of the Association’s members responding to our informal survey agreed that a bachelor’s degree was sufficient as basic formal education requirement for mediators. Another twenty percent felt that the present requirement of a master’s or law degree should be maintained.

All respondents endorsed the recommendation in proposed Rule 17.11 setting standards to the substantive content of core mediation training. All respondents asserted that role-playing should be an integral part of core training. Role playing is part of national standards for family mediator training. The training standards developed by the Academy of Family Mediators, now merged with the Association for Conflict Resolution, have been used by several popular trainers in Missouri for over fifteen years (see appendix).

B. Domestic Violence and Mediation

Dispute resolution professionals are concerned about the appropriateness of mediation when domestic violence issues create dynamics of fear, intimidation and coercion that undermine self-determination. (See the excellent article by Alexandria Zylstra, “Mediation and Domestic Violence: A Practical Screening Method for Mediators and Mediation Program Administrators,” Journal of Dispute Resolution, Vol. 2001, No. 2 at 253). Members responding to our informal survey were divided on whether mediation should be ordered in cases with a history of domestic violence. Most members have serious reservations about court rules that mandate mediation for all cases, especially those brought under R.S. Mo Chapter 455. One-third of our respondents indicated that mediation should not be ordered in such cases, while 67 % of those responding were receptive to authorizing mediation in such cases with appropriate safeguards.

An overwhelming 85% of Association members responding to our survey agreed that the mediator should have special training to handle a case with a history of domestic violence. M.A.R.C.H. Inc., a statewide non-profit provider of domestic relations mediation in Missouri, has required special training for mediators who handle cases with a history of domestic violence since 2000. The domestic violence issue should be addressed in core family mediator training requirements and in continuing education. We do not believe that a grandfather exception should relieve any mediator handling cases with a history of domestic violence from the obligation to receive training on domestic violence issues in mediation.

C. Cross Training Requirement

Supreme Court Rule 88.05 presently requires family mediators to have at least 20 hours of child custody mediation training in a program approved by the Court.The proposal for Rule 17.11 requires a minimum of 40 hours of core mediation training and 8 hours of specific “cross training” in the law and/or behavioral science fields. Association members responding to our informal survey were evenly divided on whether eight hours of cross training was sufficient. Those in favor of more cross training stated that 12 hours was more appropriate in light of a basic educational requirement of a bachelor’s degree. Most respondents agreed that cross training should include role-playing where appropriate.

All respondents also agreed that trainers should have mediation experience and instructional skills. Mediation experience is considered fundamental for trainers understanding of issues and for conveying information of a practical nature in cross-training. Certification of trainers was not deemed crucial, though documentation of mediation experience and instructional skills was stressed.

D. Continuing Education Requirement

Rule 88 does not presently require continuing education for mediators. The proposal for Rule 17.11 requires 6 hours of continuing education in fields related to ADR services or behavioral sciences that are applicable and relevant to issues of child and family development and psychology. All respondents agreed that six hours of annual continuing education was appropriate, and unanimously recommended that self-study (reading, video viewing, etc) be permitted for some continuing education hours. Eighty percent of our respondents also suggested that some of the continuing education hours should involved mediation skills. It is also recommended that non-attorney mediators have the option to obtain continuing education hours in family law.

Section 2: Family Mediator List and Complaint Process

A. Statewide Family Mediator List

The proposal for Rule 17.11 recommends that judges only be allowed to appoint mediators from an approved list maintained by the Office of State Court Administrator. Survey respondents recommended that any staff person assessing the qualification of mediators registering on the list should also meet the requirements to be a court approved mediator. The responses were equally divided regarding the fee for registration between no fee, a fee to cover costs only, and a fee not to exceed $45 per year (cost of AMM membership). All respondents saw a need for wide dissemination of the list. Ideas included: annual publication of the list, distribution to court clerks, judges, libraries; public posting at the courthouse; web listing. Respondents reported that establishing this list would create confusion with a two list system – the OSCA list for domestic relations mediators and the MOBar Rule 17 list for all other dispute resolution professionals. Some respondents suggested that a mediator on the OSCA list be allowed to advertise as a “court qualified mediator.”


B. Complaint Process

While the family mediator list maintain by OSCA will be a statewide effort, the ADR Commission has recommended that each circuit establish a complaint process for handling complaints about mediator services. Respondents whole heartedly prefer a statewide complaint process and expressed concern that locally controlled complaint procedures will politicize the mediator registration process and may create a perception of cronyism. Respondents agreed that the personnel administering the mediator complaint process should be experienced mediators who also meet the court qualifications. There were reservations that competent and knowledgeable resources exist at the local level throughout the state to shoulder the responsibility for complaint processing.

The goals of a complaint process for those receiving family mediation services should be fairness to all involved, to give complaints (perceived or actual) a means of redress, and to provide the mediator with an opportunity for input in response to the complaint. The mediator should be informed that a complaint has been made and the content of the complaint. The mediator should have an opportunity to be heard, either by discussing it with the reviewer and/or an opportunity to dialogue with the complainant. Several respondents recommended that the process should resemble “a good mediation.” One respondent endorsed the Missouri Bar fee dispute resolution program as a good complaint program model. Another suggested that the Association for Conflict Resolution has recommendations for complaint procedures that can serve as a model.

To publicize the complaint process, it was recommended that a brochure be published and given to mediation clients explaining the hallmarks of a good mediation process, qualifications of mediators and where to complain. Publication in court rules and on a website were also suggested. One respondent asserted that there should be no discipline of mediators without licensure. Others stated that consequences for a well-founded complaint should range from requiring further training, providing a mentoring process, and as a final resort, suspension then removal from the list.

Section 3: Practice Issues

A. Standards for Family Mediators

The ADR Commission has proposed the adoption of standards of practice for family mediators. The standards recommended differ substantially from the model standards adopted by national ADR organizations, which are also aspirational in nature. The Association of Missouri Mediators has adopted national general practice standards for mediators that hold mediators responsible for complying with best practices in the profession (see appendix). Members were resolute that standards for family mediators in Missouri should not conflict with national standards. A multi-year collaboration between the American Bar Association Family Law Section, the Association for Conflict Resolution and the Association of Family and Conciliation Courts have created thoughtfully prepared standards of practice for mediation in general and for family mediation that have been widely adopted (including a least one court-connected program in Missouri). Respondents agreed that Missouri should adopt the national standards for family mediators (see appendix).

B. Best Practices in Cases with a History of Domestic Violence

The proposed rule 17.09 will expand the use of mediation to additional sections of the revised statutes. In additional the Commission report endorsed a change to R.S. Mo § 452.375 that would delete the good cause exemption from an order of mediation based on domestic violence. Domestic violence, while a concern in dissolution and custody disputes, is a heightened concern under Chapter 455. Mediators are troubled about the appropriateness of mediation when domestic violence issues create dynamics of fear, intimidation and coercion that undermine self-determination or the ability to advocate for the best interest of children. The National Council of Juvenile and Family Court Judges has developed a model code on mediation in cases of domestic and family violence that is worthy of consideration (see appendix),

Family mediators in general do not favor across-the-board mandatory mediation orders or rules that do not allow an opt-out provision for cases with a history of domestic violence. This was confirmed by response to our survey. Concern was expressed about the provision in proposed Rule 17.13 that would limit the power of parties to terminate mediation when “otherwise ordered by the court.” Respondents commented that judges are not informed about the concerns that domestic violence poses for family mediation. We urge the Judicial College to require training for judges who make mediation referrals on the effect of domestic violence dynamics in mediation.

Complex issues that surround mediation with a domestic violence component should be addressed in mediation process protocols, rules regarding family mediators’ duties, and family mediation standards. Respondents felt that the mediator has the ultimate responsibility to determine if mediation is appropriate based on considerations for participant safety and intimidation. Respondents also asserted tat the initial screening of cases for domestic violence is a part of the mediator’s services and should be acknowledged for purposes of compensation. M.A.R.C.H. Inc., a statewide non-profit provider of domestic relations mediation, has established policies for screening and mediating cases with a history of domestic violence. Members also pointed out that screening protocols have been adopted in many other states, specifically mentioning Florida, Maine, Michigan and Texas. Safeguards that members espouse for holding mediation in cases with a domestic violence component include: initial screening of all cases for domestic violence, co-mediation by male/female mediators, use of the caucus model, security measures such as staggered arrivals and departures, the presence of an advocate or support person; separate initial meetings to develop a safety plan; and making referrals to community resources.

C. Mediator Fees

Court connected mediation programs have used various methods in the past to make mediation available: volunteers, services paid through grant funds, services in exchange for training, contractual services, and sliding scale fees. Domestic relations mediation is complex and intense work. It requires commitment to obtain the training and skills necessary to provide valuable services. AMM promotes the delivery of mediation by trained professionals who should be adequately compensated for their services. Many mediators are professionals who charge their professional rate in their mediation practice. Our informal survey of our members indicated that the “reasonable” fee varied around the state from a base rate of $100 per hour to $250 per hour or more depending on mediator experience. The time a mediator spends in screening a case to determine whether mediation is appropriate is an integral part of the mediator’s services. Mediators should be compensated for time spent in the initial preparation for mediation, especially in cases where screening disqualified a case as inappropriate (for example, when a party does not possess the ability to negotiate effectively due to fear for safety or intimidation). Compensation for time spent performing screening is important for supporting the quality and professionalism of mediation.

Although the judicial system is starting to embrace mediation as an important component in an integrated dispute resolution system that includes litigation and other processes, to date few courts have respected the profession by way of compensation. Court connected programs that rely on volunteers or subsidy of fees by mediators (some receiving as little as $15 per hour on a sliding fee scale) will become increasingly unable to attract dedicated and qualified dispute resolution professionals. Judges should have the authority to direct payment of reasonable mediator fees when ordering parties into mediation, including deposit of fees into the registry of the court and assessment of fees as costs of court.

Thank you for the opportunity to comment on these issues affecting family mediation practitioners.

Most respectfully yours,
The Association of Missouri Mediators, Inc.

Monday, February 05, 2007

AMM STUDIES ADR COMMISSION RECOMMENDATIONS

During the month of February 2007, we are inviting comments from members onthe recommendations of the Supreme Court ADR Commission. Theserecommendations, if adopted by the Supreme Court, will significantly impactthe practice of family mediators in the state of Missouri. It isrecommended that the mediation provisions in Supreme Court Rule 88 (familymediation) be removed and replaced by new provisions in Supreme Court Rule17 (general ADR rule). You can review the existing rules atwww.courts.mo.gov Please review the eight talking points below.

By February 15, 2007: Send your comments on the talking points by email to: momediators@mediate.com The Study Group will review comments and prepare a draft report.

On February 23, 2007: You are invited to participate in a telephone conference at 3:00 p.m. to discuss the draft study report. Please contact us at the email address above to receive information for calling into the conference.

TALKING POINTS

1. Education Requirements for Mediators: Supreme Court Rule 88.05 presently requires family mediators to be an attorney or possess a graduate degree in a field that includes the study of psychiatry, psychology, social work, counseling or other behavioral science substantially related to marriage and family interpersonal relationships. The proposed Rule 17.11 requires in the way of education, a bachelors degree from an accredited institution. Issues to consider:
a. Is a B.S. or B.A. a sufficient educational requirement?
b. Should there be any requirement on the substantive area of study?

2. Training/Cross training Requirements: Supreme Court Rule 88.05 presently requires mediators to have at least 20 hours of child custody mediation training in a program approved by the Court. The new proposed Rule 17.11 requires at least 40 hours of mediation training including specific topics, as well as 8 hours of specific “cross training” in the law and behavioral science fields. Issues to consider:
a. Are the training requirements sufficient given no advanced degree is required?
b. Should role playing be required?
c. Is cross training necessary in all matters?
d. What core topics should be covered in cross training?
e. Is the required cross training sufficient?
f. What, if any, qualifications should the trainers possess?
g. Is certification of training or trainers desirable?

3. Continuing Education: Rule 88 does not presently require continuing education for mediators. The new proposed Rule 17.11 requires 6 hours of continuing education in fields related to ADR services or behavioral sciences that are applicable and relevant to issues of child and family development and psychology. Issues to consider:
a. Is six hours per year an appropriate amount
b. Is self study, video watching appropriate
c. Should role-playing be required
d. Should the hours be totally mediation skills (what about substantive topics in your field or in cross training)

4. OSCA Family Mediator List It is recommended that judges only be allowed to appoint mediators from the approved list. Mediators must meet certain qualifications to be on the approved list (Rule 17.11), which will be maintained by the Office of State Court Administrator. Issues to consider:
a. What should be the qualifications of the staff assessing who is a qualified registrant?
b. What is a reasonable fee, if any, to charge for registration?
c. How should “the list” be disseminated – to the courts, to the public?
d. What impact does this have on the Rule 17 list maintained by MOBar?
e. When a mediator is registered on the OSCA list, what designation is it appropriate for a mediator to advertise such a listing?

5. "Reasonable" fee provisions A change in statutory language is proposed that will authorize a court to order mediation for which the parties will pay a reasonable fee. Issues to consider:
a. What information should be gathered to determine “reasonable” fees?
b. What role should the court have in collecting the fee (deposit into the registry of the court; judgment, etc.)

6. Proposed standards of practice (not the same as the national model adopted by AMM) The ADR Commission has proposed the adoption of standards of practice for family mediators that do not follow any of the national model standards adopted by national ADR organizations. You can read the standards adopted by AMM at www.mediate.com/amm Issues to consider: a. Is there a need for another standards of practice?
b. Do the proposed standards differ from the AMM standards in any ways that cause you concern?
c. Are the Commission’s proposed standards more beneficial to romoting public confidence in mediation?

7. Complaint process The ADR Commission has recommended that each circuit establish a complaint process for handling complaints about mediator services. Issues to consider:
a. Is a circuit by circuit complaint process appropriate?
b. What should be the qualifications of personnel administering the complaint process?
c. What are appropriate goals for a complaint process?
d. What are the hallmarks of a qualify complaint process?
e. How should the complaint process be publicized?
f. What due process rights should the mediator have when a complaint is received? When a determination is made?
g. What are appropriate consequences for a valid complaint?

8. Domestic Violence The ADR Commission makes no recommendations for particular handling of cases that have a history of domestic violence. Issues to consider:
a. Do you believe this issue should be addressed for court ordered mediation?
b. What standards for training, if any, should be recommended?
c. What standards for mediator experience, if any, should be recommended?
d. What standards for screening cases for domestic violence, if any, should be recommended? e. What protocols or safeguards, if any, for conducting mediation in such cases should be recommended?

Tuesday, November 21, 2006

Missouri ADR Commission Report

The ADR Commission appointed by the Missouri Supreme Court has completed its report on the use of dispute resolution processes in domestic relations cases. The recommendations address the use of mediation in family law cases. Here are the recommendations:

Changes to Court Rules on Dispute Resolution

1. Supreme Court Rule 88 is merged into Rule 17
2. Rule 17 only specifically authorizes mediation in family law matters
3. Removes two hour restriction in court-ordered mediation now in Rule 88
4. Changes “good cause” excuse for court-ordered mediation
5. Removes restrictions on mediating contempt, domestic violence, child support and custody modification issues
6. Removes discretion of judge to determine who is a “qualified” mediator
7. Requires family mediator to register with OSCA
8. Change in training requirements (40 plus hours with cross-training)
9. Adds continuing education requirement
10. Confidentiality is limited in cases of child abuse & neglect, physical threats
11. Affirmative reporting requirement for child abuse and neglect
12. Release of agreements restricted

Statutory Changes Proposed

1. Removes “good cause” exemption from mediation
2. Removes restrictions on mediation paid by the parties for issues of contempt, child support, modification of court orders
3. Relaxes authority for parties to terminate mediation in grandparent access disputes
4. Substitutes new provisions defining “good cause,” provides for parties paying “reasonable and customary” cost of mediation, authorizes mediation of child support issues

Establishment of Mediator Practice Guidelines

1. Adopts “aspirational” guidelines for mediator conduct
2. Requires mediator disclosures to parties
3. Restrictions mediator’s ability to accept conflict of interest cases, child abuse and neglect cases, and domestic violence cases
4. Confidentiality consultation required with participants
5. Prohibits coercion by mediator to get agreement or make substantive decisions
6. Restricts participation of children in mediation
7. Regulates mediator advertising

Establishment of Court Mediation Program Standards

Adopts standards that shall apply to all court-connected family mediation programs, voluntary or mandatory (including referrals by judge to court annexed and court referred programs). The standards adopted were promulgated by the State Justice Institute and cover the following areas:

Elimination of barrier to access to mediation
Program standards for court, program management, complaint mechanism, timing of mediation, referral and attendance, and evaluation
Information provided to public, bar, bench and court personnel
Mediator qualifications (comply with Rule 17)
Selection of mediators (party choice or from Rule 17 list)
Role of lawyers in mediation
Pressure to Settle
Communications between mediators and the court

Institutional Recommendations

1. Continuation of ADR Commission
2. Adoption of Implementation Model in non-urban areas: funding by Family Court surcharge or tri-county collaboration with ADR program specialist
3. Establish an ADR Coordinator in Office of State Court Administrator to:
4. Develop infrastructure to support statewide implementation
5. Serve as centralized resource for technical assistance
6. Conduct ADR research
7. Develop partnerships with other ADR groups
8. Develop educational tool targeting judges, attorneys and public
9. Identify and access funding at state and local levels
10. Local circuits are responsible for handling consumer complaints and removal of ADR providers from court-approved list



COMMENT: I think, frankly, it would be easier to just ask the legislature to adopt the Uniform Mediation Act with Missouri variations. It would be simpler than "re-inventing" the wheel as this draft appears to suggest. Elgene

COMMENT: The recommendation for a statutory provision that provides for mediation in adult abuse cases (chapter 455) should be amended to exclude adult abuse cases. The efinition of "good cause" should be broadened to include cases where there is evidence of abuse or domestic violence." Nina

COMMENT: I favor the increase in mediator training and cross-training for mediators of various professional backgrounds. The continuing education requirement is also a good idea to encourage mediators to improve their skills. Where did the mediator standards come from? They don't mirror standards set by ACR, AFCC or ABA, all heavily researched and vetted by the mediation community. Blogspeaker

COMMENT: I read the entire ADR Commission report. It was very interesting to me to see what trials are taking place in relation to mediation in Missouri. In (AMM) training sessions I have attended where judges were present, I was impressed with the judges' statements about how mediation helped their court system. I had no awareness of this when I began my education in mediation. I think it is important that more judges make themselves available to speak about how mediation impacts thier court system. I was pleased to see how favorably mediation is viewed by everyone across the board from the parties to the court staff. Linda

Monday, November 13, 2006

OK to Vent?

Is it a good idea to allow people to vent during a mediation?

Yes. Particularly when parties have not communicated with each other by choice or at the recommendation of their attorneys. Allowing parties to vent and clear the air often enables them to move forward and do the work at hand. I feel, however, it is the mediator's responsibility to maintain a sense of decorum and use the parties' time wisely. R. Pearce

Perhaps. Venting needs to be expressed in an appropriate manner that doesn't derail the mediaiton. It can be helpfyl to let people express things they may have never been able to say before and often they can move past it to get to work on the issues. if they are using it as an opportunity to berate the other party without any beneficial purpose in the mediation, then I recommend not going there. It's a judgment call for the mediator baed on style, insights into the parties and trusting instincts. K.Robinson

Some mediators do allow parties to "express their opinion" at the beginning of the mediation. One (family) mediator begins the session stating, "I am sure each of you feel that the other person has wronged you in some way. I will allow each of you five minutes to express yourself in a respectful manner to the other person, and then we will be moving on to the issues that concern your children." The mediator believes people seem ocntent after stating their minds to then put the personal issues behind them and begin formulating a parenting plan for the children. It seems to go smoother beuase they have "said it" and gotten the issue off their chest. C.Harbour

Yes, it is frequently helpful. The challenge for a mediator is to channel that energy, communication, frustrations. Observe both parties, learn and discern hidden agendas, and look for common interests. Help the parties embrace conflict. E. ver Dught

Venting is an important part of the mediation process. It can't be the only part. Venting needs to be like a slowly kinda-but-not yet- but almost whistling tea pot. Something is happening and changing, just not an annoying screaming whistle. Benting needs to be purposeful, as in heating and cooling. Mediators must be the thermostate. Zenmed8r